Expect the Unexpected

It's a common saying, and we've all heard it.  Expect the unexpected.  Be prepared.  I'm getting a vivid illustration of the importance of this phrase today.  

I'm stranded with thousands of my friends at the Portland International Airport.  Somehow, the planes have no fuel.  Whether it's due to a power outage from last night's rain or not, every plane is stranded - along with thousands of people here in the terminal and hundreds stuck on planes on the tarmac.  The machine that supplies the fuel for all of the airlines is out.  The Starbucks line is almost a hundred deep, and I am laying on the floor and pondering business.

I don't really think this is a failure of technology.  Instead, it is a human failure.    Yes, it may be hard to predict that this exact situation could have happened, but that's a part of leadership.  It's not only about looking future forward, but also about planning thoroughly for today.  Goals and aspirations are great, but if something unexpected happens that closes your business or worse, you aren't going to achieve that goal.

You cannot predict what each day will bring.  What you can do is take a look at the critical dependencies in your business - employees, capital, market conditions, fuel for airplanes - and plan around protecting those.

That didn't happen for the Portland Airport.  This is a failure of leadership, not technology.  Don't let it happen to your business.

P.S.  Also, for the one flight that did make it out this morning... Always best not to announce that they are going to send you out to Oakland and "hope" that there is enough fuel to make it.  Another failure of leadership.  Leaders need to instill confidence in those they want to lead - not "hope" to lead.  Funny day!

Number 5

When I was a young manager, early in my career, I remember having a conversation with a fellow employee who was upset about a change in procedure from the top.  She came to me in confidence and, after I listened to what she had to say, I tried to help.  I remember telling her that she needed to separate her emotions from the equation, that business was business and - this part I remember quite vividly - that a Company is a Company.  It's not a person.  It has no emotional intent or motivation, and that if she realized that then she would be able to see the logic behind Upper Management's decision, etc.  I thought it was good advice.

And maybe it was ten years ago.  Back then, the book du jour was The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene.  It was a different time... Just after the dot-com hullabaloo.  Social media was in its infancy.  The world was riding high; business and home values on the rise.  What a ride it was then.  Fast, hard driving, me, me, me.

I see things very differently today.  Great things are happening at work; we are on the precipice of a fantastic new chapter in our future.  And yet this afternoon, I found myself wrestling with some significant business choices.  So, I went to my mentor for advice and guidance.  (If you don't have a business mentor, get one tomorrow.  Run!  It will be one of the most significant investments you will ever make in yourself and in your future.)  And as I walked through it with my mentor, out of nowhere, I felt a huge swell of emotion - one that was hard to contain.   I finished the conversation, sucking it up and telling myself that "no one cries in baseball."  I am still unsettled.  And as I work through it (which will take some time), I thought of that advice from so long ago... And thought about what I would say to that teammate today.

Yes, business is business.  But business is a combination of the head and the heart.  I am farther along in my career, and today I am one of the people making those decisions that are lasting... which have meaning to lives beyond my own.  I have a responsibility to those lives... to those people.  I'm invested in them.  I know them, know their dreams, know their fears and I share their sorrows.   They are teammates, employees, friends and more often than I would admit, they are family.  We don't just work together; we have real relationships.  It's a heck of a lot harder carrying the weight of all of those hearts.  But I am a better manager today because I carry that load.  Business is about emotions, and to be successful today, you have to connect emotionally to those you serve.

Tonight, as I worked though all of these conflicted emotions, I looked up at the core values posted on my wall.  We all have them at our offices (and hopefully memorized), but do you have them at home? My son and I defined our Family Core Values when he was 3. And looking at them today, they're pretty good. It's a mantra at home with buy in from the boys. Tonight, I think they are pretty good for work too. They're emotionally based. So is work. Business is just a collection of people after all.

And people are pretty special.

Pep Talk

So, I am out at the Automotive Leadership Roundtable thanks to a good friend and a lot of networking (more on that another day). I came out here to learn about business, my industry, how it's changing and how to inspire people. And who could be a better opening speaker for us this morning than Jack Harbaugh - famous coach, but even more famous father. He sure gave me a lot to think about this morning for work. But I'm walking away a better mother today than I was yesterday because I heard him speak.

Coach Harbaugh spoke extensively about putting the team before everything else, and how all good business decisions have to make things better for the team. Otherwise, it's just not worthwhile. He talked about the value of persistence, outworking everyone around you and attacking each day with an enthusiasm unknown to mankind. He also reminded us that there are two teams that we need to focus on: the office and our family.

And the Coach hit hard when he said that "you cannot believe in yourself until you know someone believes in you", that your children "have a right to know that you believe in them" and that you "shouldn't coach-speak your kids."

A few days ago, my boys were going bananas in the backseat of the car. I'd had a long and rough day, and I am not proud to admit that I snapped at them to be quiet. Luke apologized, and then Jake told him not to apologize, that "Mom won't believe you."

That hurt that evening, but not as much as it does today. That evening, I knew Jake said it because I tell him that "actions speak louder than words." And often they do.

It hurts a lot more today because I am seeing the core of that statement instead of thinking about my action "lesson." The core of that statement was that my son assumed that I did not believe in him or his brother.

That is so immensely far from the truth, as I think my kids are the greatest people on this earth - far better than I am. I tell Jake how great he is every day, how much I love him, how incredible he is. Yet, when it came right down to it that night, in the tough times for him, he did not think I believed in him. And I remember the beginning of the "actions speak louder than words" lesson. When he said I'm sorry the day before, I'd started with "I don't really believe that... Actions yadda yadda yadda." He had learned my "lesson."

Man, I feel like dirt on that one. Yes, actions speak louder than words, but I forgot how powerful words can be.

When I get home from this conference, I am dropping that "lesson" at home and recrafting it, as I am not teaching him the lesson that I want him to learn.

Coach Harbaugh taught me today that there will be plenty of people in my kids' lives that will coach-speak them, breaking things down in technique, criticizing them, tweaking them and more. My job is to lift them up: to tell them how much I believe in them, to tell other people how much I believe in them and make sure they see it demonstrated in my every action and unconditional support of them - always.

As the co-leader of Team Family, I am a better leader today than yesterday, and I've only just begun this journey. And this also translates to the people I am blessed to serve at work as a leader and mentor.

Thanks, Coach. Now I see.
The team. The team. The team.